Posts Tagged ‘Empowerment’

Love it No Matter What ( a chapter from my next book-in the making)

October 3, 2015

A chapter from my next book in the making…


Love it, No Matter What

So what does that mean?  It can mean many things to people depending on who you think you are and what you think you are not.  Oh my, what a journey this has been and continues to be for all of us.  So much to look forward and, for many people so much be fearful about.  So which road do we choose? The road that makes us feel good or the one that continues to cycle in a state of worry, fear and bewilderment.  After deep though about this question, and a willingness to come from a heart-centered space of love, I choose looking forward happily to the next part of the journey.  What good things are on their way to us? I like the way that makes me feel, it embodies happiness within and a positive spin on life. We can then embrace the unknown with mystery and excitement. Who said there is rule book? Why can’t we decide on what we want to experience for ourselves? It is a choice about how “we choose” to experience “OUR” life.  What will we choose? The choice will unveil itself into our many life experiences running the gamut of emotions. Love those emotion… every bit of them. Be honest in expressing how you feel to yourself and to everyone else. Of course lovingly and with compassion- like you are talking to a young child who is in pain… because our inner child deserves that, and much more. Always being true to yourself it the one way to really love who you are.

You are not responsible for how another feels, they are on their own journey. It took me years to get this idea alone. If a person hurts, love them.  If they are mean to you, know they are dealing with their own demons and are doing the best they can. They are silently crying out saying “I don’t know how to love myself”.  Give them time and space as you see fit.  You may not agree with what they do, but realizing it has nothing to do with you, relieves the pressure we sometimes put on ourselves so often. Will certain people say and do things that are not from a space of love?  Oh yes, but how we choose to feel in regard to what others say, says a lot about how we will then experience our life.., Love yourself no matter how you choose to you feel.

So is this radical thinking?  Love the radical mindset. Because when you love who and what arises you will see your inner world and outer world change before your very eyes For example; if you are angry – express I am angry because of __________. Love this angry one…or I am Sad because of________. Love the Sad one.  Love What Arises……, be true to you the only one who can love you the deepest, YOU.   The more you give yourself permission to unravel, and allow your feelings, the better you can honor and embrace your deepest being, love of others and the wellbeing of all. That is gift the world is waiting for…Living from this state of being can change the world one “I love you at a time”.  Matt Kahn is a huge proponent of this mindset and I feel it is revolutionizing!  “Everything is a blessing no how “bad” or “good” we may perceive it.  Life presents itself to you for your spiritual development evolvement and consciousness expansion. Love that too! And if you can’t… love the fact that you can’t.

Now playing devil’s advocate…

In many terrible life altering situations- someone could be saying to themselves “my life has been terrible-financial disaster, relationship breakups, abandonment, abuse, illness; pick one or more or all of them, they are all terrible and I am not downplaying anything by any means. What I am saying is maybe these things occurred to somehow make us more aware of the fact we didn’t choose to live by our own choices but by the choices of others. Maybe, we gave our own power away because we didn’t feel safe, protected or confident in ourselves. Love the one who is not confident, feeling safe or protected.   Certainty there may be other reasons for our actions and feelings, but these have been the most prevalent ones I have experienced in myself, my friends, family and clients.  This is not about blame of any sort it is about exploring things from another perspective. It’s about opening another chapter in the book of life to now embrace what we thought to be true at one time, may now need to be revisited to help shift our mindset to one that is happier, healthier and more in alignment with our true divine nature.  There is nothing wrong with questioning the prior assumption about anything as that causes curiosity in life. And, what a better way to live than to question, explore and expand the unlimited possibilities that the Universe has to offer.

Walking the Tight Rope

May 19, 2015

Here I am just sitting outside relaxing when some amazing occurs…. I closely watch as a squirrel so agile as he quickly scurries across the electrical wire, ekkk…it reminds me of a tight rope. I hope the little fellow doesn’t fall off.  Wow, he did it… so easy and effortless. He does not appear to be concerned about falling off, in fact he just went about his business. Agility, I am sure comes easily to these amazing creatures, it is habitual and instinctual.

After witnessing this great feat I begin to daydream a bit. I am thinking about all the new changes I want to make in my life. I feel as if I am transforming in so many ways.  How could so many things all be going on at the same time?  Should I be concerned? Maybe I should be, but for some reasons I am not. Could I finally have reached a point in my life that I am ok with what happens and with my decisions thus far? I am tired to wasting my precious energy on trying to control everything, I have come to understand it is not my job to make everything go according to a plan. What is the plan anyway?  It is my plan?  The divine plan? Someone else’s plan? It doesn’t really matter. Life is not about controlling everything around you I have found, it’s about being in a place where you are responsible for “your” actions, words and thoughts and making decisions that align with your deepest truths. That is a mouthful of words but it is filled with enormous wisdom. A wisdom which we all have within us.

I am approaching things from a calmer perspective. I finding my life is much peaceful. I never really thought like this, so I can’t help but question myself, Janet are you giving up? My answer is firmly “NO”. Well, then what the heck made you change?  I believe is emanating from a variety of life experiences. It has taken me 55 years to feel this way and that’s ok with me.  Has your life offered new ways for you to realize things that help shift in some way? Have you transformed your mindset with new perspectives and perceptions? I bet it has if you really took the time to think about it.

Just like the squirrel scurrying along with a sense of ease and instinct we too can live our lives with ease just by listening to our intuitive nature and following the flow even during the many challenging “tights ropes” we encounter.

The Time has come….

March 5, 2015

It feels like a million years since I have been on by blog. To my devoted followers my apologies as I was on a mission to finish my book. Finally my labor of love is done and published. “My Eyes are Open” telling the story of my spiritual journey; a road well traveled with fear, courage, determination, awakening, self-love, compassion, aha moments in realizing my authenticity, and enlightenment.

I found it so empowering to get to know who I am all over again as if I never experienced it before, but this time through new perspectives and perceptions that dramatically changed the program of my limiting beliefs, negative emotions, and insecurities. The difference is now I look with my “eyes open”. From this more “Awakened” and “Conscious” perspective see that life takes on new meaning, and throughout the book I elude to my many new ideas and strategies that have help to light the way from a road of almost darkness to a road of light, love and peace within. I am blessed to share what I have come to understand about myself and about the world around me. Because now I have pressed the reset button, changed the channel and opened up a world of new opportunity.

Should you ever endeavor on opening up the world that lies deep within your heart I hope you to will come to see how Magnificent
Valuable an Impenetrable you really are…just because you are YOU!…/SK…/My-Eyes-Are-Open.aspx

my eyes are open

And so it is……………


August 11, 2014

A distant friend of mine once said: “A way to step up to prejudice is to walk around blindfolded.” I found those words to be compelling and eye opening. I thoroughly enjoy exploring these ideas further, what do you think? Walk with me and imagine how different things could be.

Our world would massively CHANGE without our sense of vision. All the stereotypes, judgments and perceptions we carry around every day would be dramatically impacted upon. Just think, all of our thoughts, words and actions would take on new meaning. If we couldn’t see the color of a person’s skin, the clothes their wear, if we didn’t notice their body language and natural gestures we would have to rely on the quality, intonation, pitch and intensity of their voice. Instead of being clouding by our misunderstandings or limited perceptions and beliefs; I believe their words would have a much deeper meaning.
knowing that, we would listen more attentively rather than passively as many of us unconsciously do.

Do you realize that when a person can express themselves more effectively this would instill a feeling of consistent confidence within…as you would say to yourself “what I have to say is important”, therefore I am important? Do you realize what a powerful and liberating feeling this would human beings? Being acknowledged for what you have to say is so satisfying because you know you are listened to with a deeper sense of understanding. Doesn’t this blow your mind? People will get you! There would be much less reason for misunderstandings and confusion.

Communication is a basis of life, and when that changes, life itself changes. The domino effect would be enormous around the world. I get chills just thinking about it…
The need for war, violence and a breakdown of the human spirit would not even be thought of, as we would understand each other more fully, therefore we have no need to “want something or someone else” to attain our own sense of well being. We would all be very confident in our mind, body and spirit, loving ourselves just as we are. We would emulate a sense of self worth and have no need to hurt another to gain “something else”.
Because when we have the need to “hurt” someone it only shows the cry for help within ourselves, as we lack the true understand of who we really are.

How wonderful it can be to would walk in your own grace- honoring yourself and everything one else you touch with peace, love, joy, and compassion. Life would show up easily and effortlessly; we could shine as a beautiful expression of who we are…

Early on in life

Feeling deeply and completely loved as a young child maybe; just maybe throughout the transition to young adult hood we would not turn to addiction to fill the void within ourselves. Kids would not be cruel to one another because they would already realize how their words and actions can damage someone else’s young spirit. Even people who have positions of authority could send their messages with truth and honesty demonstrating value and purpose. Then, the once thought of blinders of greed, money, and anger would not cross anyone’s mind because we would all live and love knowing true power and happiness is a choice and not a something to be “attained,” as it already resides with on us.

Do you wonder how the world would look? The paradigm shift would be enormous, and the domino effect would unravel so many life altering disempowering patterns we have developed for ourselves. Doesn’t this sound live heaven? I think it does. But I also know we don’t have to wait to get there. We can create a story for ourselves, one that we are proud of, and one that make us feel empowered, happy and peaceful. You can stand firm in your power and confident to make choices that make you feel like you are living what you meant to be here for; love, compassion, peace, wealth in all aspects of life, joy, etc… Those are things that make you feel good, and when you feel good on the inside you will glow on the outside. People will take notice and your life will change, I can guarantee that….

I take my blinders off so easily, will you? Take off those blinders, embrace that child within; teach that child how amazing he/she is and that their life is a story they create line by line, moment by moment. Live from the moment and don’t get caught up in “what will be” or “what has happened in the past”, truly these are all illusions that can really
impact your mind and body in ways that diminish your happiness. Instead, walk in your own grace and shed your brightest light in a most powerful way. Living with crystal clear clarity it amazing! It will be refreshing, rejuvenating, and gives a journey that eloquently directs you on a path of fulfilling your dreams, goals, and deepest aspirations.